Wednesday, 25 June 2008

Sacred Relationships

One can easily give away one’s power in a relationship.

Personal power is invariably lost when another sees you as a substitute for some emotional hang-up -> like eg.- their absent father figure.

Personal power is gained and nurtured when we allow each other to grow and assist in uncovering each other’s fears – however, this can only be done within a high level of maturity, as pointed out by Caroline Myss.

Issues in personal relationships are a process – not a problem.

A relationship is an exchange of power (a vow) – immature vulnerability is when you have given up power to another person.
Change happens – it is a process of growth – it is what a relationship is; a sacred relationship is the arena in which we will confront our fears.
Be responsible for yourself and don’t give your responsibility to your mate. If you give your responsibility to your partner, you actually give away your free will. In this you allow another to smash your self-esteem and they will create your life for you by making your decisions for you.
A sacred relationship is when two people can exchange each other’s power through the celebration of their individual and combined strengths. If you can’t exchange your partner’s growth and/or talents, your relationship will not be pleasant, and you will ALWAYS hit a brick wall.

Here’s a question for you: Did you fall in love with the being of your partner or did you fall in love with an archetype?
In answering this question truthfully will lie your concept of the meaning of unconditional love.

Choice is everything –
Through giving and allowing yourself choice, you give yourself freedom. In giving your choice to another, you lock yourself up in an emotional jail (which, by the way, has a built-in giant roller coaster that you are forced to go on ever so often).
However, choice and growth can be terrifying! Just remember that you sabotage your own empowerment through fear of progress.

That we will get hurt in this life is a given, you cannot avoid it, because of our human set-up – those who try to avoid it are relegating a gift of life to a Pandora’s box of unconscious pain and disappointment that WILL open at some unexpected time.

Guilt-free hurt is a great gift of unconditional love as a human.

Note: A spiritual master will always teach you that you have choice in everything in life – consciously.

What one has to realise within the acknowledgement of the beauty of opening oneself up for a sacred relationship, is that a relationship will only survive for its allotted time of usefulness. This sounds callous, I know, but a relationship truly worth keeping is a relationship that is of continued benefit to BOTH partners’ spiritual realisation and mental growth – and one where BOTH partners have an immense sense of self-worth.
Please note that if only one partner is benefiting, the relationship IS going to loose its meaning.

The most powerful choice you can make and have in a relationship is to give choice to another; to allow them space and to let them go, if need be, in the full understanding of unconditional love.

Another thing to remember is that an unconditional friendship will outlast the vast majority of intimate relationships. Meaning that: a sacred relationship must also include a VERY strong friendship – above and beyond the love relationship.
I say this, because one easily, and quite unwittingly, slips into a pattern of expectancy and before you know it, all the issues that unconsciously and very quietly crept up on you, now seem, most decidedly, irreversible.

You are, in fact, that upon which you meditate.
All human relationships are but a creation of the physical world.
To understand that we are all family of the One Eternal Vibration called Life, is to understand the true meaning of friendship; and when lived as such, surpasses human comprehension and directly touches what is known as the Divine. This is the most beautiful relationship in the universe.

To know – to dare – to do – to serve – to be silent.

For as long as you require someone else to be a compliment to you, you will not find happiness; and when both partners know that they do not need to do this, they will both automatically give it – and none will rely on it.
People tend to pull away when they do not know how to accept unconditional giving; and then there are those that will give in the expectancy of receiving, as a consequence…

“It is the greatest of struggles, but one who makes peace between his ego and his mission in life can make peace between the world and its purpose of creation, between woman and man, and between Earth and Heaven.”
- Anonymous
‘Till next time,


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Makeda said...

I am totally blown away, that was just right and to the point!

I went to to an event run by "Pete Cohen" (a successful life/personal coach). Whom was talking on a similar subject which took 45Min's and even then I was left a little empty...

..after reading this I'm full!

Good article!

Sharon said...

Wow thanks Jacques - this came along at the perfect time. Am in situation with my son again - Am falling into the trap of wanting to rescue him although I know I can't so this has given me some perspective again.

Thank you


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