Saturday, 28 July 2007

Do gay men understand women better than heterosexual men?

A question and answer posed by an anonomous reader: For your response -

"Do gay men have a better understanding concerning women than heterosexual men?"

Off the bat, I think that there is a simple explanation; generaly speaking - although it varies greatly, most gay men have an innate female energy that is greater than hetero males. The thing is that many gay men still do not realise how to properly use this energy; if this energy is left dormant and/or allowed to run rampant on its own - it's like a parent allowing it's child to run amuck - the child then does what it wants, because it knows there will be little - if any - concequences.

It is usually easier for a gay man to understand a woman's perspective, but that does not mean that they are exempt from the energetic consequence of having access to this perspective. There is absolutely no point in trying to understand the female energy - it is an energy that is more etheric than the intentionally grounded male energy - it makes little sense and is exasperating when trying to make sense of something that is under all circumstances not supposed to be rational.

I think that is why gay men can be such bitches - trying to make yourself understand why other people cannot understand your irrationality of a perspective of something that makes perfect sense, but cannot be rationally explained - it's difficult.
Many times, women do not really know why they do what they do - they also do not have the ability to explain how and why they are following their divine female instinct - they possibly do not even realise that in itself.

The solution? The Divine answer is, of course in my opinion, to have the male energy ground the female energy so that the female energy can create in freedom in this dimension - also allowing for expansion in consciousness of the male energy - the answer is easy, however, the catch is that both male and female need to know and respect this at all times.

The answer to the question if it is easier for gay men to undertsand women? Not necessarily. But Yes in some respects - but, in respect of what I have said, it makes it no less frustrating. The biggest frustration for a gay man - is another gay man.

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Sunday, 22 July 2007

How do you know if you really love someone?

How to know if someone is your true beloved – how to know how to attract this energy?
The answers lie in your self-worth and realisation of your own inner image. In my healing sessions with people, I have encountered this question more often than not – as it is probably one of the most important questions you have to ask..
Love, or the lack thereof, very literally makes our world go round –
The answer is actually quite simple, but it is the implementation that might be more intricate:

Istly - If you really wish to know if someone is the ‘right one’ in love, then ask yourself what you would do/feel if that person was no longer going to be there from now on – just POOF! – gone. Or even imagine yourself in a situation where you are no longer there – you no longer exist in any form; your essence is nowhere.
The person’s name you ultimately come up with; that’s your answer. Maybe you don’t come up with the name you thought you would?

We also have to bear in mind that having the ‘right one’ and only ‘that one’ is not going to be. To place yourself in an idyll of meeting your one-and-only life partner from the word go – and that’s it, end of discussion – is to set yourself up for much disappointment.

2ndly – Ego has to be removed from the entire equation. This can only be achieved through experience and working with our concept of time.

Intimate relationships are all subject to five considerations:

· Allowing your relationship to slip into predictable and monotonous routines:

By becoming overly comfortable with each other’s habits and attitudes, we unknowingly sow disaster. It also, as usual, takes two to tango – if only one partner makes the attempt at keeping the relationship fresh, well……, sorry, it ain’t going to work.
It is not easy keeping a relationship ‘wide eyed and bushy tailed’ when we are concentrating on running around, taking care of everything, but our own inner happiness. Sheer exhaustion is a killer of many more than just your inner stamina.
Keeping it fresh and lively should also not be a stressful factor – just breaking routine is what you need. Organising to go out to attend something social in the week is a fantastic way to break monotony. Do something regular with your partner in the week and also something irregular. Once you are in a set and predictable rut in all your relationship dealings, it is very hard to get out of it.

· Taking each other for granted and not attending to your partner’s needs:

Taking someone’s needs for granted is like telling someone that they are boring and unnecessary.
When you are truly with a person who you dearly love, you will naturally – and without thought - consider their requirements.
I am not talking about requirements thrown in the face of love – a relationship that is based on mental and emotional requirement will never survive very long. But, once again, it has to be both partners who consider each other’s life-paths – otherwise there will be no joy.
To be wilfully inconsiderate of another equates, energy wise, to placing yourself on a pedestal of non-caring. It is something that can be tangibly felt and is subconsciously filed.

· Update the growth of your relationship:

Things change – they always do. Remember – in life, CHANGE is the only constant.
Your relationship(s) is(are) going to grow – you cannot change that. So rather than fight the course of life, go with it and embrace it with your partner.
Maturity is the name of the game here – that is: mental and emotional maturity.
Be mature enough to say when something is not working for you – be mature enough to listen to what your partner is saying if something is not working for them.
And be mature enough to know when and if to let go – in everything.

· Making assumptions about what you think your partner is thinking and doing:

Mistrust is a gnawing rat that will eventually disembowel you. It is folly to surround your partner with an energy of your own assumption. Assuming them to be something they are not, is not going to work – When finally faced with one’s own growth, a person will always choose to be who they innately are – how long this takes depends on many things from the person him/herself, but it will eventually always be the winner.

· Not making your relationship a priority:

This is the biggy-one: When in an intimate relationship with someone, you know that there are things that you are going to have to compromise on – and they as well. It is natural and cosmically ‘right’ for us to be drawn together in loving relationships, especially intimate ones. In this you have to know that when two people form this bond, they generate a single energy – and there is also still the two individual energies of the separate people involved. Both these concepts have to exist, as foregoing the one in favour of the other is tantamount to murder.
An intimate relationship should have priority over and within the world of relationships. Here we encounter many accompanying energies such as respect, honour and open communication, etc.
Ultimately, if life is not a priority, then what is the point?”